The “Bad Boy vs Mr Nice Guy” debate has being going on for years, with the general feeling among men being that the bad boys always seem to get the girl, leaving them busy at home writing poetry and making home made valentines day cards for the girl of their dreams.
In a recent poll carried out by relationshipsurgery.com, over 87% of women questioned said they prefer “nice guys” with only 13% saying they prefer “bad boys”. This obviously goes against the general view of most men so what’s going on? Why when females clearly prefer the “nice guy” do they choose the “bad boy” knowing there is a high likelihood it will end in heart ache?
Rory Marshall of Relationship Surgery said “after a great deal of research into the psychology behind the bad boy phenomenon, there is clearly a biological and chemical reason for the attraction, which the female is not always aware of”.
It’s in their Genes
Marshall went on to explain that evolutionary biology tells us that the times of the cave man, their behaviour developed around helping to attracting a mate. Cave men would prance around hunting for supper showing strength showing the woman they will produce strong children and look after the family.
This behaviour in 2013 can often be seen in the “bad boy” when they fight or are confrontational with other men. The female doesn’t know it but they are subconsciously attracted to this until they are in a lot of cases cheated on or abused themselves at which point the say goodbye to the modern day cave man and run into the arms of the “nice guy”.
It could be said that the nice guy doesn’t actually miss out; they just need to patiently wait for the girl to follow their reason rather than their primal instincts.
About the Guest Author: Anna Jones
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it’s remarkable article.
Thank to the author for the interesting introduction of the ‘Bad Boys’ topic and the hard to find actual data that has been shared here!
It seems to me however that the survey results fit the ‘no news is a good news’ assessment.
13% is not a major minority; it is a reasonable portion size of the population since it contains a pool of various personality types: the ‘non-conventional’ ladies, passive females who are attracted to the tough father figure and the omnipotents that believe (like the jail social worker that married the murderer) that the warmth of their love will melt any iron heart (see my case study http://www.online-counseling-dr.com/Abused_Wife.html). In my opinion the good guys are safe from any foreign invasion.
Cheers,
Dr. Joe
Dr I saw the research on their Fan Page here – https://www.facebook.com/questions/10151434843374734/
Well, for me, I prefer bad boys because they are not boring to be with and in reality they are more respectful than good boys. Bad boys may looks harsh and talks just nothing but once they loved a woman, they really exert effort to value the relationship. That’s why, I easily love bad boys than those who are good but are really not.
Women like to test men to see if they’re pushovers. If a man is easily pushed away, a woman will think he’s weak and lose interest. The problem is that, if a woman plays hard to get with most nice guys, they will think that she isn’t interested and go away. The players keep coming back. They don’t care if a woman pretends she isn’t interested. He keeps coming back for more. The woman usually misinterprets his attention as genuine interest in her. All he really wants is the game, the chase, and the sex. Once he gets what he wants, its over. He might stick around for awhile for the sex, but he will never treat her well.